Since my ‘15 things that will make you feel like your life is falling apart‘ post I’ve become a bit obsessed with lists. So I thought I share another littler list of things that we and by we I mean, SOCIETY should EMBRACE…
1. That post 25 paunch
Throughout my teens I was forever hearing the immortal words “it will all catch up with you one day”. Possibly the most irritating saying on this earth I scoffed the older ladies who used to bark this information at me. Fast forward 10 years and those bitches were right. Suddenly all those weekends binging on cider and late night portions of cheesy chips are showing and they’re showing all over the top of my size 8 jeans. For months I wailed to anyone that would listen about my new found hips and ass and lamented my effortlessly thin figure. My friend and I used to have regular crisis talks about where it all went wrong, at uni were the ‘skinnie minnies’ and now we’re rocking a set of double Ds (well almost). Then I decided to stop crying for the girl I once was and embraced the woman I am! A total caterpillar/butterfly moment guys. Women especially are always trying to be thinner like that is the best thing they could ever do with their lives ever. “She cured cancer…yeah but did she ever lose that 5lbs she always wanted to?” So I’ve given up making ‘getting back to something I was’ the most important thing in my life, I do watch what I eat a bit more now and I also have a gym membership (which is used sparingly) but if I want to eat a Quartepounder and then finish off the rest of my boyfriend pasta and tomato sauce then let’s just hope it all goes on my boobs.
2. Your Parents
I want to start this point with saying that I 100% do love my parents BUT for the last few years I won’t lie, I may have ignored more than a few calls from my mum and well my dad is THIS close to being blocked on facebook. They’re great in an ‘at arms length’ kind of way. That changes though when people start dying. Shit, sorry that sounds really macabre. What I mean to say is; recently my grandfather sadly passed away, he was the first of my grandparents to go so it was a stark realisation that whilst my dad was saying goodbye to his dad one day, hopefully very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very (very looks like such a weird word now) very, very, very, far in the future I will have to do the same and suddenly my sweet, kind, loving mum and my funny, clever and also loving dad didn’t seem so annoying.
3. Commuting Time
I actually love my commute. Bethnal Green to Soho on a daily basis really doesn’t make me want to wipe out whole portions of the London population. Don’t get me wrong, a crowded tube carriage in the height of summer is not somewhere I like to spend a lot of my time (and don’t get me started on Tourists/School Groups) but I like having the travel time to decompress before you get home. That quiet period where you don’t have to talk to anyone and can sit down and shake off the day’s work. Sit, HA!, I hear you cry…well if you get the bus you can nearly always nab a seat (plus it’s SO much cheaper) and the front of the bus on the top deck is AWESOME. It does take longer (sometimes a lot) but living in London I enjoy the drive from the West End to East London. If I take the 55, then the bit when you get to Farringdon station and you can see St Paul’s and the Shard on the Horizon or when you’ve just gone past the Barbers on Old Street and you see the guys who work there playing pranks on each other out front. Or on the number 8 when you come through Bank, past the impressive Royal Exchange and of course the Gherkin…it’s like a daily tour of London’s best bits and that never leaves me stressed and angry.
4. Bad photos –
In this day and age it’s difficult to go a week without someone taking a photo of you. Back in the 90s and beyond you had the chance to prep and primp yourself before possible camera action…they’d be trotted out for birthday celebrations, weddings of relatives you didn’t really know, summer holidays and school leavers assemblies. Now with the introductions of smart phones people are a lot more snap happy then they used to be and as a normal human being it’s impossible to look picture perfect 24/7. This means that there’s a higher chance of a bad photos surfacing somewhere on the internet. But wait, hold the melt down and panicked phone call to your friend begging them to take it down…it’s not actually the end of the world. There are plenty of photos of me that I simply HATE (read: every single one that hasn’t been ‘Valencia’d’ on instagram) but I’ve genuinely stopped caring…one photo doth not a person make. I’m pretty sure that most people you know, know what you look like anyway so they’ll probably be able to see that it’s just a bad photo too and that you haven’t transformed into Sloth from the Goonies or *even more likely* they won’t think it’s a bad photo at all. And for the rest of the people that see it that don’t know you…well they’ll just be pleasantly surprised when they do meet you, and always better to be pleasantly surprised than bitterly disappointed!
By the way the above photo is taken from Beautiful Girls pulling Ugly faces and is the same girl!
5. Each Other
- The nurturing touch of a hug builds trust and a sense of safety. This helps with open and honest communication.
- Hugs can instantly boost oxytocin levels, which heal feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anger.
- Holding a hug for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.
- Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.
- Hugging boosts self-esteem. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.
- Hugs are so much like meditation and laughter. They teach us to let go and be present in the moment. They encourage us to flow with the energy of life. Hugs get you out of your circular thinking patterns and connect you with your heart and your feelings and your breath.
Thanks for reading! 🙂